If you're a friend or a family member, you already know this. So why are we having this exchange? There is so much about the beginning of my transition that has been exhausting. Physically, emotionally, all of the ways. I have every reason, and right, to make this a private affair, but I also feel …
Transgender Day of Visibility
Spoiler alert: it was yesterday. But y'all know I can't get my shit together, so here we are, a day late. I'd gotten this flag to wear as a cape while I refereed the WeMawl (a women's arm wrestling league in Western Mass that I belong to) competition a few weeks ago. I won't lie, …
Post Op
Disclaimer: Understand that while I am super excited and hopeful about the changes that this surgery will enact upon my life, it's also very hard and the recovery. Is. Brutal. Also there's a couple of post-op photos close to the end - they aren't gross, but they are post surgery, so yeah. Day 0: I …
Ta ta to my ta-tas
Sorry, I couldn't resist. But really, Boobs, it's long past time. I'm finally ending our relationship and saying goodbye. It's not you, it's me. If you were on anyone else, I would have (consentually) been all over you, but you weren't. From the moment you came into my life, I was dubious, but that's not …
Motherf*cking Gender
But first, lets get this out of the way - Gender (noun): The behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex. "Sex assigned at birth": The sex that the person was identified as having at birth. Cisgender (adjective): Of, relating to, or being a person whose gender identity corresponds with the sex the person was identified …
I will.
Regarding the Facebook statuses that are plastering my feed about women who have been sexually assaulted or sexually harassed, let me just say "me too" and leave it at that. I have seen a lot of people sharing their stories, and I'd like to say thank you to those people. I shared a couple of …
This one time, at computer camp…
Started no scandalous story ever... Actually, that's a lie. For two reasons. One, I'm sure plenty of scandalous things happen at computer camp, and two, my story is slightly scandalous. Prepare to be scandalized (but don't really, because it's not actually that scandalous. It's more tragic than anything). And since I can't seem to write …
The key to Pandora’s box was a t-shirt
There's so many stories between here and there, but we might as well get to this one first, since it's kinda the whole reason I'm here doing this to begin with. "The Great Gender Crisis of 2016", I like to call it. And it started with a t-shirt. I suppose I should back up briefly …
Brief disclaimer about my previous entry
Listen up y'all. Some people got a little bit upset with me over my last blog post because they felt like I made it seem like my parents were at fault for the difficulty that I experienced as a closeted transgender kid. Let me make this abundantly clear: It was no one's fault. Not my …
They tell me I was a little girl
Almost exactly 36 years ago, I was born in Beverly, Massachusetts. I was assigned female at birth, but my parents named me Jesse. My mom likes to tell me how she envisioned "Jesse" as a brave pioneer woman blazing a trail, and she had it mostly right, minus a detail or two (a big detail, …
Iron Unicorn 